I feel like subconsciously I thought the physical affection and intimacy and closeness would make up for all the bad and that someday he would realize how good all that was and want to get it together to treat me better.
Right now I have been absolutely CRAVING intimacy and closeness which is probably why I have been missing him so much. When I try to think about other reasons why I miss him, I can't. He made me feel so miserable too many times. Those physical times were never bad though. He was always the person I wanted him to be and made me feel wanted and actually went in to kiss me and wrap his arms around me. Otherwise, it was hard for him to be that way.
I feel so shallow for saying I only want him sexually, and to cuddle, kiss and hold right now. That's all I want him for and that's not right. I know I still love him but why would I only want and miss him for something so shallow?
Most Helpful Guy
move on... he will only abuse you again... abusers escalate. exes are past history... move on
Most Helpful Girl
As we go through the relationship grieving process, we glorify the relationship we once had. Those things you hated don't seem so bad. So then the lack of intimacy seems like it would almost be okay to call him up just for a sack session. But it will only make the inevitable separation that much harder.
My advice would either be to sleep with someone you know and that won't want a relationship or find a one night stand.
Other than that, just let time take its course.