I'm married. Both in the legal way and the Islamic way. I've been married for 3 years, but I've known him for 4.
When I first met him, I knew he was a muslim but he seemed less extreme and even now he's not like what the media shows you.
Anyway, his parents found out about our relationship and they urged us to marry due to the relationship being haram out of wedlock. Before, we were normal teenagers. We did drugs, we had sex, fun. You know. Now, it's been bloody three years since I've even tasted alcohol. I'm 21!
I converted on a whim. Everyone told me all this wonderful stuff about islam and it sounded great. I converted quickly so we could marry. But the more I actually read into the religion I see it's not for me. I don't believe in God. If I ever did, I lean more towards Christ.
Now, I don't know how to tell him. Certain ruled and things in Islam so strongly restricts my life. I can't stand by such a religion and clam to support women's rights. My husband himself doesn't even know his religion prooerly. He thinks it's all sunshine and daisys.
Anyway, other than this he's so perfect. Seriously. He's loyal, hard working, accepting and kind. He does everything for me and to make me happy. He's worked soooo hard and spent so much money building a home and paying rent and everything. If i tell him the truth, he will leave me and I'll feel guilty. I'm so alone now, and I'm scared that I won't ever find someone like him again.
What do I do?
Most Helpful Guy
if you get stuck in the groove, the ideology that is causing you trouble will eat away your life.
tough to chose between the two choices you have and id suggest that you choose choice 3 that is yourself
dont let any ideology or person hold you down
do whatever keeps you Happy, if the ideology doesn't keep up with your way of life leave it.
if leaving the ideology costs you your partner, then it was a wrong choice through out or he has the choice of choosing you or the ideology which will prove if he was a mistake or not
just save yourself
you are not alone, if you need anyone to vent to, rant, share your problems get some support, I got your back
just dont ruin your life for something that was done on a whim1THIS IS NOT RELEVANT ANYMORE
Most Helpful Girl
Hey sweets, I'm Muslim and I'm here to tell you if he's forcing you, thats stupid and you need to leave him. If he's doing it out of desperation, he sounds like he loves you and is just as scared, but scared of his parents opinions. (Arab/African/Eastern families can be intimidating I won't lie). I think you should tell him how you feel, both that you are not ready to accept this religion, but that you don't want him to leave you. Its tough ofc but if you don't you're just building up a lie that will cause bigger problems later.2THIS IS NOT RELEVANT ANYMORE