I’ve recently tried to minimize how often we hang out because I don’t want to get attached again, but realized over this past weekend that I already was. I decided that if we ever really want to be friends that we can no longer hang out, at least not for a while, in order to give us more time to heal and move on. I hadn’t told him my decision yet, but was planning on doing so this week.
We had our weekly sports league together last night and we ended up discussing our weekends and he said his camping trip was just ok. I didn’t really ask why or give it much thought, and while I was friendly to him the rest of the night I tried not to talk to him too much and left right after so he wouldn’t have an opportunity to ask me to hang out like he often does. 5 minutes after I leave I get this text:
“Hey. Not sure if this is something you want to hear but part of the reason my 4th was just okay is that I was thinking of you the whole time. It was tough.”
The other girl on our team who dates one of my ex’s good friends mentioned to me last night that she doesn’t understand why we aren’t back together. She can see how much he cares about me, how attentive he is to me, and that he always mentions how much more fun he would have doing the things he does if I was there.
I guess I don’t understand why he is having such a tough time adjusting to not being together when he was the one who made the decision to end the relationship? If I’m on his mind all of the time and not being together is making him miserable, why doesn’t he want to be together? If there is still a chance for us to get back together I want to know before it is too late (neither of us have started seeing anyone else).
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I think that you two started talking too soon after the break up. And the whole missing you thing is completely normal. He was probably so used to being with you and around you all the time that he just misses being around you. That's why he's asking to hang out.
Maybe you should cut off contact with him for a while. He'll start going crazy. And maybe with you two not talking, it'll make you two realize that being with each other is far better than being apart.
Once people love each other, that love lingers around them after that person is gone. And those people will always find a way back to each other.
Maybe you two were just meant to be for the time being!0THIS IS NOT RELEVANT ANYMORE