When should a person give up and realize you're never gonna be what he wants or all he needs to fulfill his personal life? I tried for the last 15yrs when he decided to let me know this and then another 3yrs later tells me he's bisexual. I still kept trying and did some not so proud things he wanted thinking he would see what I'do do for us at an intimate part of our lives he'd love me like a wife he wanted. I was the one that ended up being miserable for our last 15 out of the 18yr marriage. He was verbally abusive. When I finally decided to smarten up and realize I can't do this anymore, I want my life back. So again, when should a person give up, throw in that towel because I know now I wasted many years of my life.