- Stay together
Most Helpful Girl
If after tying to save the marriage (i. e. counselling, etc), than divorce would be the best option. This is especially true for "toxic" couples, who are constantly fighting and/or abusing each other. That kind of environment is extremely detrimental to children's well being, and can mess them up for life., far more than divorce (my ex was from an extremely toxic home where his parents were abusive towards each other. He always said he would rather that they got a divorce growing up than staying together... It messed him up for life).
Most Helpful Guy
I'm the perfect guy for this Q, because I've lived it. Directly out of high school I had my girlfriend of 5 years and we shared the same dream or so I thought. I used to tell her all the time in school that I wanted to be dad by 19 and I was. "K" gave birth to our daughter in Feb. of 82' and another thing we always talked about is with her as Mom, I said I'll be able to give her the option to work or not which I was able to do. My job was very demanding, often requiring conferences overseas, weekends spent in my office, my wife was unhappy. I was too. I asked her for the benefit of our daughter, did she want to occupy our spare bedroom and continue living as mom and dad for... I paid her a salary until "R", our daughter was 18 and off to college. It worked for us, not for everyone.