It's been 3 months since I broke up with my boyfriend of 3 years. I cried a handful of times since we broke up.. not very many at all. Tonight is one of them, and I feel ashamed to admit that I'm crying over him after all these months... but I still love him.
I realize the reason I haven't felt sad is I've been in denial. I know it's over, but I keep FEELING like he's coming back. But he's not. That bridge is burned. I even tried a few weeks ago and he was polite and kind (like always) but made it very clear... he's done.
Still, in my head, he's gonna text one day to say he misses me. Or I'm going to change for the better, be less crazy, more accomplished, and we'll run into each other and get back together. My brain half believes it, half doesn't, but my hearts falling for that idea hook line and sinker.
I want to let go. I want to love again. How can I force myself to accept that I will probably never see him again and just grieve that loss and let go? Because I can't seem to do that and I need someone to help me figure out how :(?
Most Helpful Guy
If he mad it clear you won't get back together I think you should accept it. Its hard I know but you have to be strong and slowly start letting him go.0
Most Helpful Girl
You literally sound like me and believe me, it's completely normal to feel this way. It's a process and I know everyone says this but it's really true, time will heal the pain.
But you should try to focus on loving yourself. Take all the energy you had put into living him and use it now in yourself.
I know it's hard but focus on realising what him leaving you represented... He didn't respect you, he didn't believe in you, he didn't care enough to want to make it work and now he's left you alone and he's off doing his thing.
It might not be the right time for you today to feel this way but it will come, it will get better I promise you. Be kind to yourself for now ❤️0