I've been hurt to many times before, I just feel I can't take make myself fall for anyone and keep re-opening the wounds. I'd much rather wait and show love to someone who's showing it to me through merit. The only problem is that, as a guy, we are expected to be the ones to initiate and escalate. I don't know what to do. I just can't do it.
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I think I would agree with the other the responses. Unfortunately not all of us are lucky enough to meet the one the first time, and yes most of us get hurt more than once. Each time may be more or less painful than the time before, but we learn from those relationships and break ups. We tend to deal with it and move on.
It would be a shame that you be too afraid to ask a girl out again because you feel your heart has been broken too many times. If you do end up meeting that one girl you may miss your chance with her by not asking, and she may be afraid to ask you. I don't think it is completely right that a guy must always initiate. I think that is why there are so many missed opportunities. The most important thing is that if you like someone, then take that opportunity. Being female, I've asked guys out before and doing so has sometimes brought closure to chapters in my life as they were not meant to be.
As to opening up a wound. I use to think a bit like that. But now I realize every time I get hurt is a different wound being made, some heal quicker than others. Also, if you feel that your wound is re-opened, that goes to show you can heal up. Sorry if this is all metaphorical. You're stronger than you think you are.1