Me and my ex-boyfriend (who I am still on friend terms with) recently had an argument. It became spiteful and I told him I got with his best friend ages ago after we had broke up. The argument became extremely explosive and he absolutely tore apart my appearance. He called me fat and said everyone has always thought this too. He insulted my body and my boobs and said insecurities that I think about myself. He knows I'm extremely body conscious and I've battled with eating disorders in the past. Let's just say everything I hate about myself he made a point of insulting. After the argument he apologised and said he didn't mean it, but now I'm questioning myself. Did he? Or was it just spite? He lies a lot so I don't know what to think. He's always worshipped my body but now I honestly don't know what to think. I'm a UK size 6/8. I could always attach photos later if people want.
I just need opinions, thank you
Most Helpful Guy
No photos, you're in a vulnerable place after what has just happened. You don't know who you're getting advice from. They could be a total creep, they could be the type of person who zeroes in on someone's flaws and attacks. This is the Internet - no photos. Besides even if people say you look good will you believe it, or will you look for reasons why they don't mean it?
But if even one person says you don't look good, that will crush you right now.
You hurt your ex so he hurt you- but he has no ground to stand on. You did nothing wrong. He probably has fears of not being good enough and that's why he reacted that way. He knows your core belief is that your appearance is _____. So he went there.
I would cease all contact with him. Clearly he has no concept of boundaries and how far is too far.
And anyways people like this need to be knocked down a few pegs- at least 3 or so1
- Show AllShow Less