My fionce rather spend time with her friends rather than as a family with me and our daughter. . She has a drinking problem and 4 years of dealing with it is making me act even more mean towards her. I love her but now I feel left out or not important to her . I need to confide in her but she won't even address a problem without getting mad at me. I work full time to make sure she has everything she wants and needs as a stay at home mom. I love her but I am tired of being abused that nothing is ever enough or money is not enough. Even when I brought home 6-8000 a month it was always something she will bitch at. I am lost I love her and our daughter and want it to work.
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You have a lot of love in your heart for this woman and a lot to offer. I don't know her as a person, but based on what you wrote she is taking you for granted, doesn't know how good she has it, is unappreciative and denial. It's evident that you are unhappy and aren't getting much in return here. There is something you really need to remember, a relationship is more than love between 2 people. Sometimes love alone isn't enough to keep a relationship afloat.
I cannot tell you what to do but am going to give you some things to consider: She has an addiction problem. This isn't going to correct itself. She needs to identify this issue and want to seek help. If she doesn't acknowledge the problem then she won't be open to help. You should be able to communicate with her, that is how problems are resolved. If you cannot talk to her, put your feelings in a letter and give it to her. Let her read it and take it in. If she still gets angry then ask her to please discuss things calmly. Finally, besides you this situation is impacting your little girl too. I don't know her age but children are very astute and aware of their surroundings and what is going on. She needs stability, good role models, dependable parents and a lot of love. Is her mom's drinking effecting her too? I guarantee it is.
You have a lot to think about. You can do your damnedest to make it work, IF she reciprocates. Or, you continue down the road of misery with nothing in return. You sound like a good man and many women would kill for a guy like you. Look at the big picture and determine what is BEST for you and your child.