I got in a fight with my best friend (warning kind of a long story, like REALLY long)
So I have a best friend who I can tell anything to... She tells me anything. She once had a boyfriend and he was a cool person. We used to go to the movies together, us 3.
Now... They broke up. She still feels something for the guy. It was a harsh breakup. She doesn't know how he still feels about it. So She has heartache, hasn't found closure yet.
Me and him still talk on and off. No flirting or anything, we're just friends. We just talk every now and then just like we do with a lot of friends, to catch up on things.
And in the meantime I still see my best friend almost daily, we talk daily.
Anyway, one day I canceled our daily call because that ex wanted to talk to me and I was like sure why not. Because it's been a while that I've spoken to him and we got along well, I didn't see any harm in it.
The people who know me, know that I just went for the direct honest approach and told my best friend that I'm going to talk to her ex for a second, because it's been some time. My best friend felt betrayed, and she wanted some space. Now she's still having her space, I don't know how it's going to go.
My question. Should I have dropped a friend, because of a best friend? is my best friend being a bit unreasonable because?
So I thought she moved on by now.
I always had this mindset of... There are people who I get along with, but I haven't seen them in months or even years. If I got a chance to catch up, I would gladly do so and cancel plans I have with people who I'd see everyday.
So please... Was I in the wrong? What should I do now about this, should I take my distance from the ex? She literally feels pushed aside.
She told me to choose between him and her.
After thinking for some time, I decided to drop the ex and cut off all contact to keep the frienship of me and my best friend. I did tell her though that I find it ridiculous and selfish on her part and that I will never agree with the reasoning, but that my bond with her is worth more than my friendship with the ex.
She accepted that and we managed to fix this.
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Im with her on this one.
First off, i dont believe a oerson should be too close with a friends bf/gf in the first. The reason being, incidents like this post of yours.
Being your best friend, she probably tought of you going along with the bro code on this one.
Usually that would mean you stop talking to her ex.
Since he is your friend too, she may not have asked you to stoo talking to him alltogether.
That doesn't mean she doesn't expect your loyalty. So when you cancelled on her for your ex, that was betrayal.
I would never forgive my friends if they did that to me either.
My friends as well as my sister hadn't unfriended my ex from fb after we broke up. When i realized that later it had been a while and it would be awkward to ask them all to do it now. However i did ask them if they were still talking to her, and none did, exeot my sis. I told her to cut that out and she accepted my demand
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