So, I started a new job nearly a year ago, & within the first day it was like I had known this guy my whole life. We clicked on everything.
He had a girlfriend & I had a boyfriend. So never gave it any thought. Then I split up with my boyfriend but still didn't give it any thought.
Over a few weeks it became apparent that we had strong feelings for each other. On a night out we got together. We didn't have sex. He was still with his girlfriend. We saw each other again & it was obvious the feelings ran deeper than being purely sexual. A week later he tells me he's left her because he wants me. We had a perfect (if short) time together then I went away 1 weekend & he told me he wanted to go back to his ex. I was devastated. But let him go. A few days later when I returned to work he told he'd made a mistake. We tried again. Then he told me he wanted his ex back. Then he came back & told me he loved me & I was everything he wanted. Tried again. After he told his ex he was moving on, she contacts him & says she wants him back. He's left me again. I've let him go back to her. All this has happened in 4 weeks. Him & I share a lot of common interests & we honestly have an amazing connection. His ex & him... well apparently she doesn't like to do anything he does. I don't know about their relationship or anything else. Just that he's not over her & says he needs time and he's confused. I think he knows what he wants tbh. I now know he's a liar, & a cheat obviously. I know I shouldn't have got with him that 1st night. Sadly I have never seen a future with anyone before & I really do see a future between us. Which would work if he was obviously over his ex. Other than letting him get on with it, is there anything I can do about this? I still work with him which is both an advantage & a massive disadvantage. I know I should bin him off. I've read back what I've written and it's slapping me in the face with the answer, but I'm not ready to stop fighting for what I believe in yet.
Most Helpful Guy
Do you really want this kind of indecisiveness for the rest of your life?
My crystal ball says you would become bored out of your mind for someone so wishy-washy - cuz this is what he's gonna do with EVERYTHING. He's weak! Girls are not into weak guys!2
Most Helpful Girl
I think it's time to stop. You're only hurting yourself4