My ex-husband of 19 years cheated on me with co-worker lied about it even though I caught him once I left him he settled for The Other Woman he moved in with her he still with her and he's doing things with her that he never did with me this is very confusing?
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People cheat for a LOT of reasons. I know, I've been on both sides of the isle. Primarily they are missing something from their original relationship - this is for both genders.
Unfortunately for you it's highly likely you could have salvaged your marriage with some introspection and some third part assistance. When you booted him he was left with his backup option - HER. What did you expect? That he was going to come crawling back and BEG?
Guys are very susceptible to a woman coming onto him that strokes his ego, pays attention to him like his wife doesn't, and she has nothing to lose. It's also called 'preselection', where if he's good enough to be married to someone else he must be a catch so she thinks perhaps she could snag him. They pour on the flirting and attention. Just exactly what he's missing from his wife.
It's also called 'mate-poaching'. Sad state of affairs, but it works with both genders.
My recommendation is to move on with your life, find someone new, and live your life to the best of your ability. Your ex is a forgone conclusion.
Just a suggestion, but next time take better care of your man.0