Hello everyone. My husband and I got married in February of this year. We come from two different sects of religion even though we are part of the same faith. My parents didn't agree with the marriage for racial reasons. His parents weren't all that excited about the match because of the religious and racial differences. But in the end we got married anyways. We came to an understanding about the religious differences and have compromised on how we will raise our children if we have any. However, when we get into fights he brings up these differences a lot, he will call me a "fucking idiot," or "dumb," if I say one thing against his sect. He says terrible things such as "You're not following the right path of this religion thus you're not part of this religion." He will say all these things and then take them back, feel terrible and apologize. But it happens too often. We just got married and I feel that I can't enjoy my marriage because of all this stuff. I knew from the time we met this would be an issue, but it was always tolerable before. Now, its something I feel we will never agree or get passed. Please help me!
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It sounds like he's emotionally abusive. Isn't that a telltale sign of abuse, to hurt your partner and then "take them back" with an apology? Repeat ad nauseum. I'm not a marriage counselor, but I wouldn't want to live the rest of my life in that situation, and having such a person raising my children. Would you?0