19, dated this 24 yr old for like seven months. This was my first time dating as I have anxiety, and honestly I was hesistant but I decided to give him a chance. Before he met, he was single for about 5 months after breaking up with his ex of 2yrs. He broke up with her because she cheated on him. And they still talked during our course of dating, which I should have deemed as a red flag. He said that was his first serious relationship so I was like, well okay.. I wish I had listen to my gut because he was already dishonest, manipulative, and pressuring. Like the second time we hung out, he forced me to kiss him. But besides this, he was nice, funny, and "caring" He knew I had no experience so I think that's why he took advantage of me. I noticed from June, he talked to me less, but we still saw each other once a week. Anyhow, I ended things with him because he pressured me into almost giving oral sex. I'm a virgin while he is not, and I told his boy SEVERAL times that I am waiting. I went over to his place, and he pressured me to take off my underwear. And what hurt me is he called me selfish for not giving BJ. I thought we could maybe work things out. So I tried to talk about how I felt, and the last straw was he hung up on me. He showed no remorse and said because I was asking questions over repeatedly. But we had the last convo last month. After I told him how I felt, he said that he would distance himself from me so he won't hurt me anymore and that was that. I can't stop thinking about him despite the way he treated me. The relationship was getting too physical, but I keep thinking about the good times...
It's been about 3weeks NC. Even though I deleted him on Snap, he still has me but he can't see my story. It just hurts because I gave my all to him and risked certain things. He was the only person I was close to these last months. Do you think there's a chance he'll realized what he did? Like if he can talk to an ex that cheated on him?
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I feel like the chances of him realizing what he did is very slim. I feel like if he does ever "change" he is just putting up a front and just trying to mask his true feelings where in time he will show his true colors.
Also, it seems like he wants to get very physical with you and won't really be able to wait too long for you to put out. I fear if you do get back together with him he might just want to try to marry you just so he can have sex with you1
Most Helpful Girl
Honey, if there is any chance of reconciliation it'll be because he wants something physical from you. He does not respect your boundaries, and although this may sound like a lot to want from every single male it's absolutely primitive and the base of every single relationship. Therefore, you shouldn't even have to ask and it's not a lot. You are an equal to him; he has no right to pressure you into doing something that you don't want to. The fact that you're asking this question means that you know that. You're an intelligent young woman. You can do much better. It may be hard and it may take time but I promise that you'll be glad that you left him in the past. The first step is learning to respect yourself!
Nobody is ever worth your wellbeing (unless it's a close family member in a crises)