Maybe you've had multiple. How has it effected you the most in general, long term, and in new relationships?
- Yes, emotionally & mentally.Vote A
- Yes, mentally and physically.Vote B
- Yes, I'm still in it.Vote C
- No, but I've watched someone go through it.Vote D
As a result, I'm terrified of any type of intimacy that leads to me giving my trust. Even when if I do I always stay aware & alert. I'm very cautious and always on the edge of my seat with people as if they are going to turn on me any second. I feel like I'm always being lied to or manipulated by people. I'm working on this everyday.
Most Helpful Guy
I kinda feel better that some people here share the same experince as me. I didn't realize how much my relationship was toxic until i read this. I grew up in a messed up emotional environment my family were abusive emotionally and mentally and in rare cases physically. I guess thats why my only and first girlfriend was abusive too. Emotionally and mentally, she put her needs before mine i was in college and had finalls she would ask me to call her and talk until she falls asleep. She didn't care about my future. She told me to stop being around certin women wanted me to text her 24/7 i was exhausted but stayed cause i didn't want to be alone with this family. I was open about my vulnerabilities told her about how girls i dated were bad with me told her even about my family. She used all that against me she cared about her furture only. She cheated on me she was with ber ex the whole time plus she was trying to date another guy. After i told her im not staying anymore she came to my social media and insulted the way i look and my manhood. Few years later we came in contact the only thing she said to me that i got ugly. I left few years later she came in conatct with me asking me where i am what im doing with my life i gave her fake answers and left the conv. She is the reason why i couldnt find a girlfriend all the women i met after her were emotionally abusive too they would use my feelings then break my heart wothout any feelings at all.1
Most Helpful Girl
I was with a guy like this - extremely emotionally unstable and manipulative. He spoke to me like a literal child and refused to speak to me in any other way. He constantly pressured me into changing my appearance, such as shaving all of my hair off (which I never did. because F that!) and he cheated on me all the time too, denying it every time even after his mistress contacted me. There were even a few occasions when I hinted that I wanted out and he threatened to kill himself either by jumping from his 10th floor balcony or grabbing a blade.
I put up with that crap for two years. The guy I dated directly after him couldn't handle the affect it had on me, stating that I was clearly still "in love with him" because I bragged about how good the sex was (erm? I complained that he pressured me into sex)
And to top it off, that same guy I dated directly afterwards... was in some ways sexually abusive. He would constantly try to push me into having sneaky sex with him in public places including public bathrooms or down at the park or take me back to his apartment just for sex. He would even without warning attempt slip his hands into my bra or my underwear in public and get angry with me when I objected to his behaviour. The rest of the time, he would piss off and hang out with other girls and would enjoy his time with them more than he would if he actually hung out with me.
How has this left me? Pretty fragile. My most recent boyfriend was really good about my fragile ego up until his father pressured him into leaving me. -.-1