He broke up with me? He said he wasn't giving me the attention I deserve. He was busy but I know he could make time for me. I was 28 he was 24. Maybe I need to go for older guys who are more ready for a relationship. As for now I'm really sad and can't help to cry at work. I cried yesterday in my car even though I was trying to be strong. There is this guy at work who has been the sweetest guy but I am not very attracted to him but he has a lot of good qualities I just don't like his teeth that's all. Is that my mistake that I ignore the good guy. Anyone who is married that has great advice?
Most Helpful Guy
Dear, you're only 28 years. Stop saying "will I ever find anyone"? What's wrong with his teeth? Teeth can easily be cleaned and/or replaced. But if you go into a relationship thinking that you settled for someone, it is over before it started. But guys who may lack in a certain area, can fix that. You may be able to help him with his teeth by casually suggesting dentists in the area. Now if he fixes those you have a guy with "a lot of good qualities" and good teeth. Its a little extra work, but it might just work out for both of you. GOOD LUCK!😊0
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Most Helpful Girl
I was in a similar situation, the age gap wasn't nearly as large, I was older than him by a year. He broke up with me, says I deserve someone better than him, we got back together, and then a month later he breaks up with me for a B. S. reason. The problem with dating a guy like that, he doesn't know what he wants and he has self-esteem problems. You can do as much as you can to help him, but there is only so much you can do, the rest is up to him. I do think that older guys tend to know what they want and have less self esteem issues, they've had a few years to work out all their problems and mentally/emotionally grow up.
Are you not attracted to him physically? What if you don't see his teeth, do you think he's attractive? If you find him attractive minus the teeth, you should just give it a shot, he could always go to a doctor and get his teeth fixed/straightened/whitened. If it's not just the teeth, then as nice a guy he is, he probably isn't for you, most times if attraction isn't there at all it is difficult to grow/develop (trust me, I've tried, MANY times and it doesn't work). Unless you are the type of person who finds people attractive after you get to know them, there are some people who need an emotional bond first before they are attracted physically to someone. If that is you, then you should give him a chance and get to know him. If that isn't and and there is NO attraction whatsoever (even if he had nice teeth) then you should just walk away from that, it likely won't work out and it's better not to have a bad/awkward time with someone you work with.
You will find someone. That was something told to me by an older married friend with three kids. He basically told me time will heal my wounds, I'll get over it, and I'll find someone. He then told me of his various breakups and how awful he felt at the time, and he got over it and found someone, so he has faith that I will too.0
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