I got out of a relationship a few months ago. But it's still pretty rough for me. I still love the guy, I really do, but it's just... hard. Unfortunately, we never got the chance to meet because of how much it would cost, plus he needed to renew his passport & I had to get one. Our relationship was a BDSM one, so it wasn't the normal boyfriend/girlfriend kind. Even though we couldn't meet just yet, we Skyped literally 24/7. & I do mean 24/7, we never ended the calls & if the call was to drop then we would quickly fix the problem & get back on Skype. It was just... perfect. Well, clearly not since we aren't together anymore... Anyways, so I have been trying to reach out to him to HOPEFULLY start over, you know, take one step at a time. Be friends again & the likes of that. The attempts have been... well, lots of trial & error. Although he did come back one day to talk, which I thought it was a positive step, but maybe not.. He said he still needs more time, which is totally fine, I mean, he didn't tell me that we are never going to talk again, just that he needs more time still... I guess I don't want to deal with this break up, but more so as to, what do you guys think? Do you know something that I can say to him to maybe get us talking again? Has this happened to you & were you able to talk to him again? If so, what did you do? & keep in mind, it was long distances, so I can't just up & go to his house. Or even text or call his cell phone. So, the only way I can send him something is through his Steam account by posting a comment on a screenshot of his. Not how I would like to do it, but I don't have any other way. Besides sending a letter, which is not the best because his mom could see it, since he still lives at home for the time being. So please, can you help in anyway to make me have a chance at talking to him again? & don't just tell me to move on, get it enough from my bestfriend, which is stupid because she can't even move on from her ex too.
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It seems as though you don't respect yourself enough which is a pity since you seem like someone who's got so much to give. "If the answer was no there's a better yes waiting you along the way". "The only truly tragic relationships, the ones worth mourning, would be the ones where both people wanted desperately to belong. And this wasn't at the end, despite all promising signs, that kind of relationship at all". You shouldn't even question if you need to move on, so here a few tips on how to do so from a fellow devastated soul:
- Start and end your days with positive thoughts and reassurances. I'd suggest downloading app called AlwaysPositive, download a lot of quotes and read them out loud. Believe what you are saying because you are indeed good enough the way you are.
- Don't do anything about the guy, try to push him as far as possible from your life. Ideally you'd want to replace past experiences with new ones.
- Try to love yourself more because yourself deserves more attention. Try to define what you'd like to ideally be, look for your greatest ambitions and get a better picture of who you really are. Key to our happiness always lays within ourselves.
- Get up early, don't stay up too late, try to get rid of overthinking and keep yourself busy with something you find meaningful.
Don't try to desperately get him back, no wants to have a relationship with their fans and you are his atm.1
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