He seemed upset when he broke up with me (since I didn't get emotional, just was fine with it). he laughed and thought I was being sarcastic, and seemed to not be happy that I was OK with the breakup. and said with a hurt and pushy tone,"wow, you seem relieved, I guess this is the right thing then." I reminded him (as I had said the last time things got CLOSE to a breakup), that I cared about him too much for him to feel "miserable" staying in our relationship, and that I want someone who really WANTS to be with me. he remembered that, and realized I wasn't being sarcastic. then as soon as I got off the phone he saw that I changed my facebook status to "single" and texted "wow, the whole web knows you're single. sorry I held you back." I didn't respond. then he emailed me a couple days later apologizing for the texts, and saying he was shocked that I seemed happy and ready to date someone else, and offered to drop my things off at my house. I texted that I didn't have time to reply to his email now, but that he could drop the things off that night. that night, he called (clearly sounded like he had been crying), saying awkwardly that it probably wasn't a good idea to call, but that he was on his way to drop off my things, and wanted to know if I was home, even though it didn't matter, since he'd only be leaving them on the porch. (then he sent two text messages after that as well). I didn't reply, except to send him a text the next morning saying, "thank you :)" then, he took a trip to see female friends and ex girlfriends in Vegas, then a couple days after he got back, he sent me this text: "Hi, I was wondering if you felt like texting or talking, is it too soon? I don't like the abrupt silence, after all we've been through, or is it best for now? I'm sorry if I'm making things worse, it's not my intention. I just want you to know that I'm here for you anytime, even if I know I'm not the right person to tell you that. all I wanna say is that I love you and I hope you're OK." Is he over me, and just seeking friendship, or is he missing me, or wishing we could still be together? and how should I reply to that text? even though I'm still in love with him, and cry every day from the breakup, he had me on an emotional roller coaster, and I don't want that anymore. that's why I've not replied to his attempts to contact me.
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WOW girl I wish I had the "balls" you've got and handle my ex teh way you have! I think that's the reason why he acts like he does, because you have played it so cool. I commend you! I don't know why men break up with women and then turn around and be babies about it and wonder why. I know how hard it is because I am going through it myself. I agree that you do not need this kind of treatment from him. Maybe he broke up with you to see what your reaction was. either way, he did not expect you to bounce back so quickly like yoiu did. what is your secret and can you tell me how to be brave like you?0