Super condensed version of story:
-Girl is in a 3 year relationship with a guy.
-Girl meets guy J on holidays in another country.
-J and girl have a fling and decide for J to visit her after she breaks up with her boyfriend for him.
-Girl meets guy M on plane.
-Girl dates/sleeps with M until J comes for his visit (so about 2 weeks) all the while making M sound as if he was her soulmate and that she was/had falling in love with him.
-J comes for his visit and guessing they planned out their future and he returned back home until he could permanently move back for her.
-M and girl go on two dates (they didn't sleep with each other, but lost of kissing/touching).
-On the breakup date girl makes M sound as if they're soulmates again and says they should try again in the future and wouldn't let M leave, the date continued for 7 hours with lot's of kissing/touching and I emphasise how above and beyond she went to make M sound as if he was perfect for her.
-Girl and M stop talking/dating.
-Girl and J get engaged a few months later.
-Does J deserve to know about M?
For the full story:
- Tell him
- Forget it and move on
Most Helpful Girl
No, because it's not clear cut cheating. You don't know their relationship or what was going on between them when you were seeing her. It definitely sounds like there was cross over but by going to him you're going to look jealous and petty over the fact she didn't choose you.
It's time to move on
Most Helpful Guy
Didn't read the entire thing, so I'll just give you my opinion either way. If they are somewhat tied to the same woman, then they deserve to know. Why would anyone withhold this information? All parties need to know what's going on. Simple as that