So my girlfriend and me have been together for one year and 3 months now. As a 20yo male I have a pretty high sex drive. My girlfriend is 18.
Now we've only been at it like maybe 8 timed and I feel like it isn't enough for me. I won't lie the thought of cheating on her or breaking up has been in my mind. I dont know the reason why she doesn't want to have more sex. I treat her like a queen every time she's here. I cook for her watch romantic movies eventhou I hate them and she knows that. I just need advice on what I should do because I don't know anymore. Talking will not help because I tried and she brought up a stupid excuse.
Most Helpful Girl
"I won't lie the thought of cheating on her or breaking up has been in my mind."
Whatever you do, don't cheat on her. If it's impossible for the two of you to reach some kind of understanding you should break up with her, but don't cheat. Have the decency to end things before moving on to other women.
"I treat her like a queen every time she's here. I cook for her watch romantic movies eventhou I hate them and she knows that."
You can't just fill her up with imaginary kindness coins and expect to "hit the jackpot". I'm willing to guess this is just a matter of different sex drives, but if that is or isn't the case, keep that in mind regardless.
"Talking will not help because I tried and she brought up a stupid excuse."
And there is your biggest problem. How did you approach her with this problem? If it's anything like you've posed your question, I can definitely understand if she shuts off and won't give you any real answers. Have you tried to sit down with her and have a real heart to heart? If this isn't just a matter of different sex drives, you're never ever going to find out what the actual problem is if you can't set aside your own feelings on the matter for a second. Approach her calmly, explain that you love her and you want to make things work, but as things are you're unhappy in the relationship. Maybe she's into things that you don't know about - if you can get her to share those things it could spice things up a lot for you. Or maybe she has a specific issue, with her body or her sexuality, or you. Whatever it is, if you want to find out and fix this, you need to approach her empathically. Be willing to hear her out, even if her reasons seem silly at first (emotions are often silly, but that doesn't mean they're not important).
If you're not willing to communicate with her about this in a mature way, your relationship is already over. Sorry to be so blunt, but that's just how it is. Talk to her or break up with her.1
Most Helpful Guy
Just wondered what the excuse was?
Anyway you guys are young and your communication is prob not the best. Women's sex drive is a little more complicated and, it's not an insult, but maybe you are coming at this from an immature stand point. Don't be mad bro it takes some of us years to see our own faults. I say talk to her and listen. Try not to take it personally and don't get mad. There is prob some intimacy missing or something on her mind or something isn't clicking for her. If you don't get the bottom of it you will prob re live this situation in other relationships2