He left me 4 months ago.Together 4 yrs. I was his 1rst relationship. He's a homebody and doesn't date. We had a great relationship. I was a good girlfriend and he was a good boyfriend. We were happy. He moved back to his hometown. He's kept in contact with me since then. Just calls to say "Hi." and ends convo with "I still love you." I don't ask him if he does he just tells me on his own.
I called him 2 days ago and asked him to come home. He said I was being "silly."He says no matter how much we want to be together he can't because he signed 1 year lease on apt. and they would charge him a bundle to break the lease.( he's on disability payments). I understand that. He says he has a picture of us on his nightstand. As I sat here and typed this he called me again to say "Hi." I was very vague with him and he cut the convo short.
I know he still loves me and there was no reason for him to leave.
Please help me understand what is going through his mind. Tell me how I should act when he calls me, or should I not answer and let him wonder? I hardly ever call him.. Maybe perhaps then I can find closure on this. thank you all so much.
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Sorry to hear this. Relationships can be so painful because the brain is telling one thing but the heart is pulling the other way.
Consider the facts.
After four years he moves away and takes a twelve month lease on an apartment. Why?
He says he STILL loves you. What does he mean "still."
Ask yourself, if he loves you why move away?
Ask yourself, do people in love really want to separate for long periods or do they want to be together?
He is a "homebody" so I suspect he wants to have his cake and eat it. He likes his bachelor life but rather likes to keep a nice girl like you on tow.
I do not know how you feel about it but my advice would be for you to test the water again. Go our more and meet people and socialize. In this way you may move on although you can still take his calls and keep in touch. In this way you, too can have your cake and eat it.
Too many girls stick by a bloke who is not keen on a permanent relationship and by so doing they waste their time. You have already used up four years of your life on a boyfriend who is now living away.0