Most Helpful Guy
I've never had a messy one so I don't know how well I can speak towards it. I've been on good terms with my mer ever since our breakup, and she remains one of my best friends. (I don't like using the term exe since there are so many negative connotations that go with it) I don't know how I'd deal with a messy relationship, though, to be honest, I think I'd want to stay in touch. Even if we're not romantically involved, there was likely a time when we really loved each other, and I doubt I'd just stop caring about her. If possible I'd like to mend the relationship, at least to the point where we could continue being friends. If not I'd probably pray and read my Bible. I find that to be very encouraging to me.
Most Helpful Girl
Time and lots of time. This is the part people struggle with the most. They want a quick fix but there is none. You have to give it time. That will make it hurt less and less. Also distance. You should no longer talk to them, see them, online stalk them etc. You have to decide to put them behind you and accept it is over and that they are not coming back.