I've been in an abusive relationship for 2 years. I just recently realized that I can't take it anymore and even if it was so hard for me (I really love him) I left him.
I didn't talk to him or anything and just completely ignored him. He kept texting me and calling me but I didn't answer. I ended up blocking him on viber and on my phone but I just unfriended him on facebook. He sent me a friend request recently and kept commenting on my profile pic. He even texted my mom. He said he wanted to talk to me.
The thing is... I still think about him sometimes. I'm thinking about maybe I should meet him and tell him that I'm breaking up with him. My friends and family tells me not to, because he might do something to me...
Most Helpful Guy
Your safety needs to be your number one concern. That doesn't even need to be your physical safety. Being in an abusive relationship is like a drug. Your brain is used to chemical responses, triggers, impulses, and defenses. When talking to your abuser you will be prone to fall into those patterns again and it takes a long time to detox from that sort of trauma.
The extent to which he is going to contact you needs to stop and I would encourage you to have your mom tell him not to contact her again and that attempts to reach you would be construed as threats moving forward and reported to the authorities.
You yourself should immediately get into counciling or therapy. There is absolutely no chance you do not have emotional or mental damage from the relationship and you need a non-romantic, unaffiliated third party who can give you the tools to start processing through everything. Because the truth is it did take a lot to get out, but if you don't deal with the repercussions of this relationship you will more than likely just find another abuser. You need to take care of you so that later, in a few years, you can be confident in yourself and your ability to hold a healthy and worthwhile relationship.0
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Most Helpful Girl
fucking run now1