I'm 29 years old, an engineer, 6 feet tall, white and making $150,000 yearly. I got into a relationship with my girlfriend at 27 and she was great looking. She has now put on about 50 lbs and I simply don't find her attractive anymore. The thought of having sex with her is repulsive to me.
To make matters worse, I used to have a lot of problems picking up women but now it's like shooting fish in a barrel. Most women approach me and in all honesty... it's kind of played into my psyche a bit in that with all these options my standards of beauty have gone up a lot.
I know I am going to get criticized but when 24 year old girls approach you... you start to quickly lose attraction for a girl who is 29 and looking curvy.
I don't want to hurt her feelings but I can't stay in a relationship with a girl I can't have sex with. Sorry. How do I let her go?
Most Helpful Girl
Just get it over with instead of leading her on longer. You two probably aren't very happy anyway and just together because you've been together.4
Most Helpful Guy
I can't see her not feeling hurt if you've been in a relationship that long, unless you've been having problems in the relationship already and a foreseeable breakup was inevitable. Couple options:
Option 1: Encourage her to exercise and eat healthier. Better yet, exercise and eat healthier options with her. Consider that even though you can "trade up" in terms of looks, doesn't necessarily mean you should. You didn't list out any other qualities or shortcomings about her, so the only factor to go off of is that she's overweight. If you have made up your mind about breaking up with her,
Option 2: Be very straight with her and break up respectfully, in person. It's going to suck, but it's the least you can do for someone you've been in a relationship with for that long.3
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