A relationship of over 10 years. Mortgage and young children are involved. The relationship has been rocky for almost a year now, but it's not improving all that much. How long is too long to try? When do you know it's time?
Most Helpful Guy
unfortunately, I've had more then my share of failed, relationships and I treat it like Alimony, but not 50% of the time spent, more like 5%-10%. You've been together 10 years ÷ 5% = 6 months. But here's the thing, if you both are serious about trying to rescue your marriage, you should get into counseling. You have to have an outsider, a mediated so to speak. I do not like using that term as it makes it appear there will be nothing except arguing and that's not true. You both have to commit and attend. After 3 mos. you can kind of feel if its working, even just a tiny improvement & it will continue to improve. GOOD LUCK!1
Most Helpful Girl
Are y'all married and if not, do y'all want to get married? I'm pretty sure this isn't the first time y'alls relationship was bad so first of all , don't panic. The cause of this may be because y'all are stressed or something so my suggestion is to make some time to spend quality time together. Not just a little regular thing either. Maybe go get massages together, have a nice little dinner where y'all are genuinely having a good time together. Sit down and calmly talk to each other about what the problem is and fix it. If he doesn't reciprocate any of your efforts then that's when you'll know when it's time to let it go4