I've been married for ten years. I'm 38 and my husband is forty. His main focuses are business, kids, and his other interests. We've had sex less than 6 times this year. He's lost all interest in me. He says he doesn't want a divorce but pays me no attention. I'm confused: If he's not sexually or emotionally into me, why stay?
I'm so lonely. I know it's wrong but I'm thinking of seeking attention and physical pleasure elsewhere since he doesn't want me. I've a very high sex drive but he rolls over. I feel so ugly and unwanted. He won't divorce me, says I'm a good woman.
I'm so lonely and confused.
Most Helpful Guy
Makes me feel sad reading this. If I were in your shoes I'd have no choice but to go to a marriage counselor. I've known people who have done it and it really helped. Even if he appears to not want to work on the marriage, he actually might agree to go to a counselor with you. I've seen it happen.1
Most Helpful Girl
I'm really feeling for you dear.
Both a woman and man in a relationship need to feel desired especially as the years go by.
You could flirt with him during the day to build up the desire for sex.
Try a sexy text or two.
Have a special dinner once a week.
Thank him for the littlest things that he does.
Lack of attention can be the start of the down fall of a marriage.0