Who keeps the dog after a breakup?


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  • That's a good question, and it entirely depends in the jurisdiction you live in. Pets are legally considered property, no different than material property like a car or household appliances, etc. I know that sounds terrible to say, but that's just how it is. Pets are not children. The couple in question has to get along well enough to decide where pets will go, if they don't want a judge to decide for them.

    My husband and I have two dogs. One is older than the other, but they are both very bonded to each other. Ideally, we would take one each if we ever split up. That's actually the agreement we have in place, but on the other hand is it fair to split up a bonded pair? THAT'S the hard question that would have to be answered. I hope I never have to answer it, though. Lol.

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  • The couple should make a rational decision, based upon with whom the dog has bonded the strongest and whose future living arrangements would be most suited to a dog.
    When my last cohabitation situation ended, I got custody of the cat.
    There was a mutual loathing between the human female and the cat.
    He showed himself to be a much better judge of character than I was.
    I learned to not trust anyone who did not like cats, or whom cats did not like.

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  • Whoever bonded with the dog more. My ex didn't take our cat because she was def my cat she didn't have much to do with him.

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  • If the dog was owned by one of the partners before the relationship then that person should retain ownership after the breakup. However, if the dog was brought into the partnership by both parties then whomever is the primary caregiver should get the dog. If both parties shared responsibility for the dog equally & no agreement can be reached, then it's fair game to take it to court.

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  • Usually, a dog can be considered like a baby. If you want to have joint custody then that's your choice. Also, it would be the best decision if you both want the dog. Or you can decide among yourselves. If one is living further away like in another city then you're going to have to choose. Usually it's the one who is more capable or financially stable to keep the dog since they can provide for her/him.

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  • If it was a gift then the person it was gifted to. If it was something you decided together then whoever paid for it, if both did then either whoever can afford to keep the dog or do stone, paper scissors or something of the kind. Or if the dog is more attached to a specific person by a large margin then the person the dog is most attached to.

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  • Who ever bough/adopted the dog or primarily cared for the dog.

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  • whoever bought/adopted a dog
    pays for dog care + needs
    takes care of the dog more
    whoever the dog likes more

    factors such as these could probably contribute to who gets the dog. lel

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  • I would say the person who wanted the dog BUT it also depends on the dog and who ever he is attached more too but more importantly whoever takes the dog needs to be the responsible one that will have time to take care of the dog's needs cause his well being is a priority its like a child.

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  • If it's not obvious which one of the two owners is the more responsible one who can offer the dog a better life and who the dog has more of a bond with - then splitting your time seems like the right thing to do.

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  • We share two of them, I had one of them when we got together. My husband said that if we ever separated I could take them both, as my old girl was originally mine and they're completely bonded as a pair. It wouldn't be fair to separate them

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  • I think whoever has a more stable home for the dog. Whoever can afford the dog, whoever can provide an area of the dog to roam
    , and whoever has the means to take care of the dog should keep the dog.

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    • What if that's both partners?

    • @CebuanoWildcat ooh that's tough. In my experience with people there's always one that's slightly more able than the other in terms of pet care BUT that's not everyone's.

      If both partners are completely equal, I think the dog should go to whohas bonded with the dog more. Is there a noticeable favorite? They get the dog.

      If there is no noticeable favorite, then the dog should go to whoever is on the adoption papers. If the dog was adopted as a gift, them the dog should go to the original gift recipient.

  • Whomever has been taking care of it already, and has the time to do so. If responsibly was shared equally, then whomever paid the most money, unless the animal seems to have a stronger connection with one over the other.

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  • Former roommate went through this with his terrible ex-girlfriend.

    Even though he bought the birds, took care of the birds and generally wanted the birds more than her, he wasn't around very much after he got his new job up north. She took them back to her family's farm while she looked for the next sucker to try and buy her new boobs.

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  • the dog owner... if they both bought him together than the dog should go to the person he/she is more attached to..

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  • The one willing to invest time and money for looking after the pet. If there are kids, I suppose the pet remains with the one keeping the kids for the most part.

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  • Whoever has the best ability to care for the dog and love the dog. If a point comes where this person can't. They give the dog to the other person no matter what

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  • whoever took it to the vet the most and put more time and money into it. unless the dog is yours and you came into the relationship with it

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  • I never understood why people got pets when they are dating...

    The one with the most time to take care of it should probably have it, but yoi can have split custody I guess. Just don't give it to a shelter, you'd be surprised how many dogs end up in shelters because of breakups.

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  • Whoever can care for and provide the happiest and healthiest life for them

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  • That's a tough one because our pets are like our children. If you got the pet then I'd say you keep it. If it could be done in a civil way perhaps one week at yours other week theirs. As we do with divorce and children.

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  • Let the dog decide.
    Each person goes away for a couple of days, look at the dog's reaction when each person comes back. Then decide from that.

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  • Hmm I was almost in this position at the start of this year.
    Our dog will always be with the children because he really misses them when they are not home.

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  • Whoever turns out to be a better cook 😉💕 If it happens to me, I'd surely win and get to keep the dog 😇💖

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  • it depends.
    if #1 gives #2 the dog as a present, it's #2's dog,
    if they both adopt it together then someone has to compromise.

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  • Depends on who the dog likes more. But if you're pretty much equally involved then it's gotta be shared custody. But really the one who cares for him the most.

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  • It varies with every relationship. It depends on who cares for the dog more, who wanted the dog, and many other things.

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  • I guess whoever takes more care of the dog and has more time to look after him.

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  • Who ever can best provide for the dog. My boyfriend is always away for work so I would probably take the hypothetical dog because I am home every night.

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  • Dog is like your best friend it's family too you shouldn't let it go because someone you love gave it to you. It doesn't even matter just keep it , it's like your best friend

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  • The one who can give it the best home and care. Unless it was there dog before the relationship. My pets are always going to be mine. At least the ones I got now

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  • Whoever looks after it most. If the responsibility was split 50/50 then maybe share the dog?

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What Guys Said 189

  • It really depends on how the dog was brought into the home. Besides that, say that the dog was adopted and not a present for example, the dog should go to the home with the person who has the most stable home. Has ebough time for the dog and knows how to take care of it.

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  • Simple, the person who purchased or received the dog or the person who genuinely cares for the dog more. If the person who purchased the dog loves and cares for the dog dearly, then he or she should keep it.

    If the person who purchased the dog, does not take care of it or mistreated it and the other person in the relationship is the more loving/caring type then he or she should have it.

    If both individuals love the dog dearly, my guess is it should still go to the person who purchased the dog. If purchasing or receiving the dog was based on a couple decision, that's tough. I am not trying to be mean but it's a dog, I understand the symbolic feeling it is for (man's best friend) but the other person who does not receive the dog can buy a puppy and care for it, raise it properly, in a new home, in a new environment.

    I'm sure animals who care for their owners deeply will be confused or upset if they do not see 1 particular owner but unfortunately, like children, they have to deal with it. Life throws curve balls and it's not always ideal or fun to deal with but when it comes to breaking up/relationships it is hard to the individuals involved as well.

    Best of luck.

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  • first off, if your not married it is irresponsible to get a pet. I don't care if you have "intentions" on getting married or not. If you do, then you should plan for who gets the pet before you even go get it and have it in writing.
    If your married it is trickier. Right now our dog goes where the kids go. So they spend 2 weeks with me, 2 weeks with her. She goes wherever they stay. After they move out, then we will figure something out. But I don't see changing the every 2 weeks.

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  • I'd let the dog choose. If the dog is ambivalent, then it should go to the person who spends the most time and/or money on the dog. The dog should be allowed to visit the ex for a bit, as the breakup affects them too.

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  • I don't care who she is, or how many dogs has has or will have. If it was mine, or we got it together, I'm keeping that little shit with me till it grows old and dies. It'll be much more loyal than she was anyway.

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  • Whoever brought it home in the first place, or if it was as a gift, the person to whom it was gifted. No one can really deny that any pet belongs more to one party or the other. There's always someone who loves on it more than the other. Whoever loved it more should probably keep it.

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  • One of many reasons I am old fashioned, and would be hesitant to have any gal move in with me unless I married her first. And I can usually weed out the bad gals long before the altar is even a discussion.

    Divorce - and pseudo-divorce - are very cruel things, especially for children and pets. Better to remain alone, if I do not yet trust myself with that kind of responsibility.

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  • Depends on who likes the dog more. If she bought a Pomeranian for her purse she can keep it (also i probably wouldn't date her anyway. Im not attracted to valley girls). If i bought a Rottweiler then im keeping it, thats my dog. If we got a dog together and love it equally as much then whoever has the money to support a dog should keep it.

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  • Likely the one that has the means and desire to care for it. Should it be something else?
    If they equally do, is the animal closer to one or the other? Most dogs have a preference for one or the other. Usually the one that feeds them and walks them regularly.
    Otherwise, flip a coin. Or flip her. :)

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  • Rule of thumb priority
    1. Whoever is best suited to raise the dog. If both people love the dog, then they'll know who that is.

    2. Whoever purchased the dog.

    Simple. If I knew the dog would be better taken care of by my ex, then I would let her keep the dog and just ask to visit the dog. But if I were the better person to raise the dog, even if she bought the dog I would compensate her the difference and take the dog.

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  • it is normally who ever loves the animal more. In most cases women want the pet. I suggest that you not try to keep the pet and let the other person have that pet, You can always replace the dog or cat and fish or etc. if have to you can fight in court to get the pet, but it is better to just replace the pet

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    • no it's not... that's like saying it's better just to replace a child after a breakup... witch I personally would be more willing to do then with a dog!

  • who ever can take better care of it and give it the most love I kept my ex dog and I would have faught till the end over her only cause the dog loves me more she stayed with me by my side since had her that's been nine years ago and now I don't think of her as my dog it's my best friend and more then that she is my kid now you can have everything I own but my dog hell I give my girl up before my dog lol

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  • For your sake and the dog's I hope you're not a Christian but if you are the Bible has some specific advice about this sort of situation. All you have to do is get out of really big knife and Voila! problem solved.. you will be called wise, too!

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  • The dog goes to the ine who bought it. Except when the buyer can't take care of it. Had the same problem with 2 dogs and 2 cats.
    I took my dog and my ex her dog and 2 cats. Altough I miss them, I know it's the best for them.

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  • the guy. he spends most of his time trying to rebound but ultimately fails and ends up being alone for awhile. pretty sure he deserves the dog. unless he cheated or was the reason for the breakup or something

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  • good question, i assume is the one who adopted it, or the one who owns the house in which they both live, it's a default choice, we I can't accurately quantify their relationship. but after all i got another question, Is the system holding back the people from their own independence?

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  • Whoever likes the dog the most or had the most time to take care of it. Honestly, I'd let her have the dog 'cause I've had too many pets die on me to want to deal with another one.

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  • put it down once the relaitionship ends that's the end of its slavery to you happiness and need for controls over something you can handle you both just need to admit you've lost controls and end his servitude

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  • I got the dog for our 20th wedding anniversary for her. It's her dog. English Bulldog. She kept it, but I babysit it if the ex leaves town or whatever. The dog comes trucking with me.

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  • The "alpha" should keep the dog. This is commonly the male, however not exclusively. The dog should stay with the person whom it views as its master.

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    • i seccond this but most people can't really determine that

  • I kept the cat, she always liked me more anyways. And I have a house where I can have animals, she didn't.

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  • whoever can take care of it the most and the best. who has the most space. generally the one who doesn't move.

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  • That is a difficult situation, to some pets are like their children, so then, the question becomes, dual custody, which requires more communication, that most of us don't want to take the time to convey.

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  • Depends who makes most money and have home. Yard. And can cover food cost. Vet care. And more. Like children owning a dog but children grown and can care for themselves after time. Dog stays sameish.

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  • I desperatly miss my dog after my breakup but because of problems it would be unfair for me to keep him

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  • Although a dog is man's best friend and is our comfort... I think the women should keep it just to make the man be more of a gentleman and not an asshole... or it can be shared... shared custody will work fine I think

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  • whoever bought the dog. If they both did than you might as well flip for it because other then that you'll both feel unsatisfied without the dog

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  • you both stand at opposite ends of a room and call it. repeat this six or seven times to see who it comes to more

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  • Assuming both have comparable living situations, the one the dog goes to when you both call it.

    Otherwise, the one with a yard or space for the dog to run.

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  • I had to let my ex-wife take the dogs because she was moving into a house and I was just able to rent a room

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