The guy she left me for was arrested for sexually assaulting his sister in law. I found out he just got over his second divorce and met her. He used to be addicted to drugs and recently he got drunk and sent my parents threats, even bringing up my children during it. My dad left a one star on his business on Facebook with no words on it, deleted it a couple of hours later. He is her boss and he is ten years older than her. To top it all off she makes excuses for all of these issues and says he deserves a second chance, but tells me how much she hates me. We were together for twelve years and have three beautiful boys. I didn’t care that she cheated. I loved her and wanted her back. I was so sorry for the things I said during our depression. Yeah, I didn’t hit her, cheat or do anything that was completely bad, but I can’t blame her for not wanting to be around me at the time. Her mom, friends, pretty much everyone says that she is lost and this won't last. I agree with that.
Honestly, if she does come back to me I'm going to tell her the truth of what needs to be done. We are both messed up in the head and need help. I love her so damn much and I don't believe in the whole once a cheater always a cheater. If things like that were true I wouldn't have gotten myself out of my hole like so many people believed.
I'm just looking for advice on this situation, any thoughts?
Most Helpful Girl
She's already made her decision, even if it may not be the best one. There really isn't much you can do or say about that. Instead you should focus on bettering yourself. What you do if she comes crawling back is up to the two of you.
Most Helpful Guy
There is nothing you can do about it. You still love her, and it's clouding your vision. She's gone. You need to face reality and accept it.
To be honest, from what you are saying it's questionable if you two should even be together. It sounds like an unhealthy relationship where you are both dragging each other down. I'm speculating, but that's what it sounds like.
Work on getting your own life together without her. Do it for yourself and for your kids. Those kids don't need to be raised in a house full of drama.