I was dating a man for seven years and just found out last week he has been seeing a woman for almost 20 years. Supposedly he just broke up with her and he told her about me and she wanted to break us up. He claims he has not loved her for a very long time and has tried to break it off numerous times . But supposedly she helped him out financially man years ago and always reminds him of it and he feels guilty and keeps her around. He asks for my forgiveness and wants to marry me. I find it hard to trust him. Should I forgive or let go.
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Don't believe everything you hear. He was seeing her for 20 years and you for 7? wtf...
How would you ever trust him after this, I usually am the one that always try to get people to work things out because we all have our situations in life and love BUT he has deceived you for way too long. He has basically lived a double life and now he is ready to leave her and marry you? Come on! If he wanted this then he could have had the balls a very very long time ago...Unless you want to go into a marriage thinking by having a ring on your finger will heal the wounds!
At least give it some time (a few years) to make sure that you will be happy with him for the rest of your life. For a man to stay in a relationship with a woman out of guilt, bulls**t and you know this. Think with your head and not your heart, it has no reasoning. Good luck, you will need it! Ty-lady!0