I was dating the girl for 6 weeks. We were have a great time together and evert hung was going smoothly. I started to really fall in love with her so I told her how I felt about her, and I asked if she would like a relationship with me. She sat there for a minute not saying a word then looked at me and said that she would love nothing more then to have a relationship with me but she didn't think it would work because of her busy schedule. She is a volunteer firefighter and is trying to make it a career. She said that it wouldn't be fair to me if we were in a relationship cause she would have the time that is needed to keep it healthy. So we left and went separate ways. That evening we talked for about an hour or so over the phone. She kept saying she wishes it could work but she didn't think it would and if we got into a relationship and later on it started to go south cause of her schedule it would be harder to break it off then it is now. Do you guys have any suggestions for me? I really like this girl and we are both wanting this to work but she's afraid it won't last. I really need some help cause I'm hurting. What do you think I should do?
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You cannot love someone you do not know... therefore if you love someone after 6 weeks... you are in love with a fantasy and a projection. The girl realized this subconsciously hence her response.
There may also be an element of self sabotage as well. Subconsciously you may have ''known'' that telling this girl how you felt after only 6 weeks would have made her run for the hills. Therefore you may unknowingly not even want this relationship.
What do you do now? allow yourself to do what ever it is you need to. Whether this is obsessing about her, day dreaming or crying. However, it is best to channel all energy in a useful and positive way.
Personally I'd use this energy to train, get stronger, channel her into becoming better than you already were. Make her regret letting you go by becoming a super hero... with the hope that you may realize that you never needed her in the first place...0
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