So husband soon to be ex has a bad temper & wen we try to work it out that's one of the statements he tells me how would you interpret that if your spouse were to tell you that
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That's so manipulative. He's trying to blame you for his insecurities so that he doesn't have to feel bad about being an ass when you can feel bad for him.
It's an avoidance tactic.
Just know it is nothing but a tactic and you don't have to let it get to you.
You can actually read about it in psychology theory. It's an very common tactic.
He doesn't like experiencing those feelings so he's deflecting them and passing the blame to you so he can feel a little better. He isn't doing it intentionally, it's more a subconscious thing but it's still manipulative and toxic.
In these instances, just try to distance yourself til he cools off.
Deep down he doesn't really believe you are the reason for his temper, he knows it's his own fault and it kills him to accept it.