Here's the situation:
I met a girl on a dating website. We were/are pretty compatible, we've gone on a few dates and have had some good times.
I was a virgin until about a week ago when I finally slept with her. I couldn't orgasm at all, but I figured it was just my nerves. Had sex again recently and the same result.
She's invited me to a concert in a few weeks and another one about a month and a half down the road.
My problem is, I still don't want to commit to her as "my girl." For some reason, I want to play the field still even though she's done nothing for me to break up or drift from her. She's a great girl, but I'm just not feeling any strong emotions for her.
I feel like I'm an asshole for feeling this way and since I've never been in this position, what do you think about it? I am an R.A. at my college and live farther away. I don't plan on coming home regularly and having a girlfriend would also be more time consuming in a world where I already have little free time. What do YOU think I should do?
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As long as you guys haven't had the exclusivity talk then you're free to do whatever you please. She may be assuming it's a lot deeper in her eyes and it probably wasn't best that you lead her on a little. But bottom line, until you talk about it then you're both free to explore. Just continue to be honest even when it's hard and you won't be a "jerk." It's the guys that lie and then sneak around that are the real losers. She might get mad or she might not, but maintain honesty and you're not doing anything wrong.0