I was in a great relationship with my 21 yr old boyfriend who seemed really genuine and down to earth but it's like as soon as he got me pregnant he didn't want me anymore. He tells me I should get an abortion and I would do it but he's no longer with me and so why do I need please him? Thing is he says if I keep it he'll be there for it because he doesn't want to be a deadbeat dad but he's put through so much emotional pain I don't know if I even want him in my life. I want the baby but I don't want to ever talk to him again. He left me for someone else and all I ever was to him was nice and supportive. But if I have the baby I'll have to keep seeing this guy that broke my heart.
Most Helpful Guy
do what you want to do and don't worry about the guy. Get help with money from WIC and food stamps. He was scared and ran away.2
Most Helpful Girl
You're going to move on and that broken-hearted feeling will go away. My sister has had two children from two dead beat dipsticks and she has to see one of them whenever she drops her youngest off to see him. She has a boyfriend now, lives with him and her two kids, and has another one on the way. Trust me, you will get over the pain and learn to live your life.
Now, he may say that he doesn't want to be a deadbeat dad but he might not even follow through with that shit. Either way you do owe it to your child for them to be able to know their father. You don't have to like him, but you should do it for the child.3