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Cheating is never the answer...
and you know I wouldn't be as upset as I am if she had just told me or even left me before fucking around.
I can imagine :/ I believe that when something is broken in a relationship, there are only two options: fix it, or end it. Cheating just creates more pain and anger for the one who has been cheated on
Yeah and I already fixed it once 5 years ago. I can't do it again. it's obvious she can't be faithful.
You keep looking in bars?
Lol no. just getting out a a 10 year relationship ended just like the rest of them. I feel like just giving up on the whole relationship thing all together.
The only common denominator is you. What makes you attracted to cheaters? Why have you not yet learned to see early warning signs?
I have no idea. guess I'm just too stupid to realize.
Therapy could be helpful to you.
maybe but I don't have time for that. I have to work.
How long do you think therapy takes? You go in for an hour after work or at the weekend, you cry, and you learn things about yourself along the way.
I make my own hours and I don't take too much time off.
Well, then you need to prioritize. Do you always want to be in unhealthy relationships where you end up getting hurt or do you want to learn to make better decisions?
really I don't want another relationship. ten years is a long time we've got three kids too. I can't do that anymore. the kids are the reason I work my ass off damn near 24/7.
It's fine to take a break from dating. It's probably even a good idea. Have you ever considered that perhaps the reason women keep cheating on you is because you are emotionally unavailable through being a workaholic? It's not a good excuse to do it, but it provides context.
that's the thing is I was always there I didn't start working like this until it was all said and done. the only reason I work so much now is to keep my mind off the while thing and so my kids are fed. what really suck is my kids are in Texas with their mom and I'm in California.
So you have no reason to work insane hours. You have no reason not to try to get better or do things differently. You just don't want to change.
the reason I work is so I can take care of my kids. they are my world I want what's best for them.
They don't live with you. You can take an hour every week to make yourself better.
maybe you're right. I'll have to think about going.
and sorry for the late response, I was working...
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