I've been with my boyfriend for over 6 years now. we are both in our 40s. I am so ready to settle down. It seems like he dosent. He loves to drink every weekend faithfully even when he has no money that he has to borrow. this man has no stop button. everything has to be a party. to be honest I'm tired of seeing him coming home drunk. when i talk to him about it he gets a defensive saying dont change him. I'm not asking him to stop drinking. I'm asking him to slow down and not go out every single weekend. I think I'm changing. I'm finally realizing what I dont want in a relationship. I'm looking for my own place before I break up with him. Do you think I'm being selfish because i want to leave?