I've been with my boyfriend for over 6 years now. we are both in our 40s. I am so ready to settle down. It seems like he dosent. He loves to drink every weekend faithfully even when he has no money that he has to borrow. this man has no stop button. everything has to be a party. to be honest I'm tired of seeing him coming home drunk. when i talk to him about it he gets a defensive saying dont change him. I'm not asking him to stop drinking. I'm asking him to slow down and not go out every single weekend. I think I'm changing. I'm finally realizing what I dont want in a relationship. I'm looking for my own place before I break up with him. Do you think I'm being selfish because i want to leave?
Most Helpful Guy
hi i read your post and i want you to know that you can change your man and also make sure he stops drinking and get devoted. the same also was happening to me so i tried to fight back my man with all option and today he is a change man. you can message me if you wish to change him0
Most Helpful Girl
I've been saying a lot to other people on this website as i reckon its a missed question we all need; does he make you a better you? Now, not saying that my opinion is needed, but from what you've said, I do not think he does. You're not being selfish, everyone deserves a happy life, and if you think there is a chance with someone else, I'd say go for it. Besides, an alcoholic who doesn't want to change is scary. All I can say is that if he doesn't seem to make you your best self, and is ruining himself simultaneously, go for being happier. I don't think this man wants to settle for years, and there's a possibility you can meet someone in months who really makes you your best you. Hope this helps?0