Im 23 and I'm in a relationship and we are getting married in a couple of months, but I get bad anxiety and panic attacks about the future and shit and I'm terrified out of my mind that we might get divorced, he's talking about children and stuff and atm thats the last thing I want because I don't want to be a single mum. Are there any factors that make divorce likely and what are the things you can do to reduce the chance of divorce. I understand thats I'm talking years in advance but I want to reduce the risk so that it will most likely not happen.
by the way I posted this twice cos i had no idea which catorgary it went in! :D
Most Helpful Guy
The first thing you should do is STOP thinking about divorce before you're even married. Nothing good ever comes from negative thinking, you'll never get off to a good start with your mindset. Once you're married and living as one communicate, there's two of you to consider don't be self centered you'll have to give and take. Do things with him you really don't enjoy that he does like going to a ball game, fishing etc., and by you making sacrifices expect him to do the same. In time if you put his feelings above yours with certain stuff the foundation will get more and more solid. Also it's very important to take care of yourself, so many married couples let their self go appearance wise and gain weight, they don't take care of personal hygiene and lose self respect, once that happens it's a long road back if they get back at all. Remember you are what you think about mostly. Think positive trash the negative thinking.1
Most Helpful Girl
Learn that no one is perfect, no marriage is perfect and the very best thing you can do for you and your partner is to communicate and never assume. Pick your battles instead of arguing over every tiny thing and make some form of intimacy a priority in your day1