I've been through an amicable breakup recently, and he's genuinely a good person. I don't want to hate him yet whenever I see him I'm like 🔪🔪🔪🔪
Most Helpful Guy
Hate arises in you because you are attached to the guy. When we are attached to something, we view it as 'me', 'my', 'mine' or as a part of us. That is a wrong view and wrong view, false perception or misunderstanding is the reason why attachment arises.
Attachment will cease when there is no wrong view. To have the right view of a situation, we have seek out the root of our misunderstanding, confront it and understand it. Then we will have the right view and we will be able to let go, and hate will disappear.
Most Helpful Girl
You do not hate them. You hate the feeling that you are no longer with them or have access to them. You are no longer their priority and you feel like you wasted your time with them. Relationships are a big investment which takes a chunk of our daily lives. So after a break up, there's a void within us. Be happy princess. :)