Do I wait it out and be there for him or do I stick in the knife and do it now?
I've wanted to break up with him for a while. We don't share the same ideals when it comes to the future and our relationship isn't... going anywhere.
Recently he's found out his pregnant sister is really sick and he's taken on the responsibility of looking after his family with stress from moving and his work Tooo.
I feel horrible about breaking up with him now. I want to be there for him because he really is a good guy, but I don't want to lead him on..
Most Helpful Guy
The best time to do anything is NOW.
However, if you could wait until his situation gets better, it'll be easier on him to deal with his family.
What you could do in the mean time is create distance from him. Do not try to help him as it'll give him false illusion that you'll stick by him through thick and thin.
End it gracefully by stating that your values and ideals are different and it'll be best for you to take separate paths. Give him a grievance period. They say two weeks are okay. Then cut off all contact.
Even if you want to stay friends, you have get far from each other to stop the emotional trauma and give yourselves time to heal.
Most Helpful Girl
I think you should break it off. Explain to him that you're there for support though of course and just let him know it's because you have different ideas for the future and that things just aren't lining up exactly how you wanted them to. Like another poster said, there's never a good time to break up with someone. Just rip the bandaid off. It will work out don't worry. You'll be setting him free really, how would you feel if someone was staying with you out of pity? Or just sticking around because they didn't want to upset you? Best to break it off.0