I have and I felt like shit because they treated me like shit for a hook up. He only shows up when he feels he needs some lovin but disappears when he doesn't. I walked away and disappeared from his life but he realized I am a good girl who has a lot of love to give but too late son, my ship has sailed. BYE lol
Most Helpful Guy
I did that once. The big lesson I've learned is to invest in relationships without taking the other person very seriously. My most recent "crush" is a girl I met at college who seems to have such a crappy sense of self worth that she intentionally surrounds herself with people who talk badly about her. I thought that I could inspire her step up her game a bit by treating her the way a lady should be. I reasoned that even if we didn't date (because I really didn't care that much) that we could be good friends... She ended up just blowing me off to spend time with those same people who would talk about her like she was dirt. Even though I know she genuinely appreciated it, obviously I didn't make much of an impression, and I'm okay with that now because I know not to take her seriously.2
Most Helpful Girl
Yes, and this has happened to me both romantically and platonically. It's very easy to be blinded by someone's good traits, to the point where you somehow start accepting the bad traits too. Even when they outweigh the good. Some people are just really good at manipulating, or have some extraordinary personality traits that really draw you in. So for a long time you might not even realize that you're sacrificing your own happiness and mental health for someone else, which is why leaving can be so hard. Like you know that they're bad for you but you end up justifying it in the weirdest ways.
Finally letting go is a really liberating feeling, though. And even though I feel ashamed for having put up with so much bullshit, I'm proud of being strong enough to leave and I'm happy with the lessons I've learned. It has made it easier for me now to see through other people's bullshit.1