I have and I felt like shit because they treated me like shit for a hook up. He only shows up when he feels he needs some lovin but disappears when he doesn't. I walked away and disappeared from his life but he realized I am a good girl who has a lot of love to give but too late son, my ship has sailed. BYE lol
Most Helpful Guy
Yes, not long before I came across GAG. I pursued and pursued and pursued her and ended up more hurt and broken each time. She was basically a middle school girl in a 19-year-old's body. The last time was the worst. I cut her off after that and never went back. Six months later, she was pregnant and engaged.
Five years later, she sent me a friend request on Facebook. I browsed her page a bit and learned that she was getting divorced. I knew it would happen. I am not now, nor was I ever happy to learn that that had happened. I didn't even think "she deserves it". I'm better than that. I ignored her for a while before I deleted her request. A month later, I met my girlfriend :-)2
Most Helpful Girl
Yes, and this has happened to me both romantically and platonically. It's very easy to be blinded by someone's good traits, to the point where you somehow start accepting the bad traits too. Even when they outweigh the good. Some people are just really good at manipulating, or have some extraordinary personality traits that really draw you in. So for a long time you might not even realize that you're sacrificing your own happiness and mental health for someone else, which is why leaving can be so hard. Like you know that they're bad for you but you end up justifying it in the weirdest ways.
Finally letting go is a really liberating feeling, though. And even though I feel ashamed for having put up with so much bullshit, I'm proud of being strong enough to leave and I'm happy with the lessons I've learned. It has made it easier for me now to see through other people's bullshit.1