what do you think the reasons are?
Most Helpful Girl
It depends on a persons own character , and how they respond to their pain and emotions after a breakup.
Some people are emotionally stronger than others and can adapt quickly to the breakup. They accept it's over, so put it behind them and move forward and on with their life. They refuse to allow the pain of the breakup to consume them. They keep active and their mind focused on things other than the breakup and their ex.
Some people persistently dwell on the breakup and their ex. They hold onto keepsakes, and spend most of their time reminiscing about what " was" and what should've / could've been. This just keeps their pain raw , and prevents them from moving on. Reminiscing feeds memories and memories feed the pain. They get locked in a cycle of grief. Therefore, they fail to move on.
Most Helpful Guy
Some people put a lot into a relationship, sometimes everything. To the point where they base their self worth on it and take ages (or never in some cases) to recover from the pain and regain their confidence.
Others can usually get over that quicker, they go find someone to boost their confidence and get that "loved" feeling again.
Then you have cases when it's just one partner who loses interest and has moved on before the break-up even occurred, while the other one didn't.