After a few months of no contact we ended up hooking up again she even admitted to her malice regarding her post break up behavior (she did it all on purpose).
After one of my female friends confronted her about her behavior at a party, my ex cried (from what I hear) and stopped returning my calls.
It's been a few months since I talked her (I left a message on her machine wishing her a happy birthday) and I was wondering if it would be wise to contact her again.
I know all of my friends and family hate her. Even her friends (which loved me) said I should move on because I was "out of her league" (I can't make this stuff up). But you really can't help who you have feelings for.
I am in no way interested in dating her. And I NEVER will (I can never trust her again). Some of the stuff she did to me was beyond bad (bordering on evil) but deep down I know she's a good person.
On top of that I know that I'm not the perfect guy (far from it actually), and everybody makes mistakes.
I can forgive her.
I just worry about her or wonder how's she's doing from time to time.
Do you think it would be wise to open up communication again (just to see how she's doing)... or should I just forget her and move on?
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You're obviously a smart guy. You're having trouble seeing the forest for the trees. You need to take a step back and think about the advice that you would give to one of your buddies that was in this situation.
She may be a good person deep down, but her behavior toward you should be setting off alarms in your head that she's not a good person for you. Whatever happened to cause the behavior is now beyond your control. It's one thing to have a bad breakup, and call each other names, and go your separate ways and be mad at each other. The fact that she would take the time to try and tarnish your reputation, should be enough for you to know that she cannot be trusted. Not even as a friend. She can repent all she wants, but what's done is done.
I rarely ever suggest that we should be concerned about what other people think of us when we end a relationship. However, in this case, I believe you should be concerned. Not concerned what she will think of you, but what family and friends will think of you for letting her back in your life. Accept her apology, but don't allow her back in your life.
I'm guessing you'll probably run into her on campus, or at parties and such. There's no reason you shouldn't be polite and respectful, but refrain from interacting.
At this point, it should be no concern of yours as to how she's doing. It shouldn't make any difference. Chalk that relationship up to experience and move on.0THIS IS NOT RELEVANT ANYMORE