So I was in one of those good relationships which, for me, ended "out of the blue". It didn't take my ex more than 3 weeks (if that) to lock onto the next conquest. In the mean time I was a wreck-not eating, sleeping, just totally thrown through a loop by the switch my ex flipped.
The most common excuse I've heard for my ex's rebound behavior is "Well, they can move on faster because in their minds it's been over a while so they've already processed it"
. . . Is that supposed to justify their actions and make how they end the relationship okay and without fault? I'm very interested to here girls and guys perspective on this? Where is the accountability?
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It doesn't justify anything, it's an excuse. Let me guess, everything was going great then all of a sudden he gives you a "talk" on how things weren't working out, wanted to see other people, he wasn't "ready", wasn't feeling it, needed time, it wasn't you it was him, told you "we can still be friends", or just stopped talking to you altogether. If he moved on that fast I can tell you that he thought about breaking up for a long time, at least a week before he did it and he had this other woman in his sights. Things like this happens all the time (usually to guys). How can something be solved and you don't even know what the problem is? Since he didn't talk to you about what was going on, he just wanted to "let you down easy" without the drama of a break up. It's not right and I understand, but you just have to move on from him. Don't talk to this guy ever again and don't be friends with him.3