However, it depends on how the person is and who is the one initiating the breakup.I'll give some examples.Say a girl is dating a violent abusive man. Yes, the thought that will run through every girl's mind that find themselves in a situation will think "oh god what if he beats me or worse..." So in this case, over the phone or simply disappearing would be the best option. And also place a restraining order on him. Another example is say the person did some shady crap to you like cheated on you. I would recommend simply showing them the evidence via text and tell them, you're done with them
I agree with you 100%. There are cases where breaking up in person is not necessary, but those should be pretty obvious and common sense should dictate whether it's safe or worth your time to do so. But, in most cases, I think it's good form and shows integrity to break up in person. Just because it didn't work out with someone, doesn't mean you're given some free card to be disrespectful to them.
I think this is the best answer, because all cases are different.
I meant *undiscernable.
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For the second one, I think that's terribly insensitive of her. For serious, long-term relationships, I'm a proponent of F2F break-ups, but they should be done in private and not on an actual date.
I was actually in a restaurant once where a woman was having lunch with a boyfriend and doing the "break up" talk. On top of it all, she spoke in a loud voice that carried through the entire restaurant and everyone could hear. Here I was trying to eat my fantastic lunch while listening to THIS? LOL... On top of it all, it was a friend of a lady who I knew. I told her about it the next time I saw her... LOL
Lol. SMH... Some people.
LOL! Oh yeah it was the dumbest thing to have to hear! The guy kept his cool and I couldn't even hear what he was saying, which was good. Perhaps he was better off without her... LOL
I'd bet money that he's happier now. No one needs that kind of drama in their lives.
That's arguably the worst way! Just rip the band-aid off and let the person get on with their life.
I say it's the easiest way, arguably.
It's cowardly in my books.
To continue being the devils advocate:In what sense? What would having a conversation on this solve?Closure? Who cares about closure.
Efficiency. For the person being dumped, anyway. It saves their time. And well, if this is a person you dated, presumably your relationship was a mutual endeavour. Ergo, the break-up should be mutual too, and both parties should be aware of what's happening and when.
Break ups are pretty one sided, actually. And if a dude isn't picking up your calls, then you know what's up boyo.
Mutual in the sense that both partners are aware of the end of the relationship; not in the sense that they both have to agree with or want it.
If somebody has ghosted you, you're aware of it fairly quickly boyo.
Depends on how they do it. If they cut all communication quickly and completely, that's better than if they slowly fade themselves away. But if I've been dating someone for awhile and they suddenly disappear from my life, I'd be left wondering if they maybe met an untimely end or something like that, and so I'd spend some time trying to figure out what happened to them.
But I digress. My question is: what is it that prevents you from telling the person something like, "I don't want to see you anymore" and THEN disappearing yourself?
Seems like a waste of effort, if something happened to him, somebody would tell you. If he just upped and ghosted on you, then it's clear as to what has happened.
"But I digress. My question is: what is it that prevents you from telling the person something like, "I don't want to see you anymore" and THEN disappearing yourself?"Nothing. I just wanted to give an unexpected answer.
Oh. Well, I was very much expecting your answer, and was waiting for it, actually.
Why does she have to know?
@ThisDudeHere couse she deserve to see my mood
But why? I mean, what makes it so important?