So my husband has been very distant with me lately, I'm a woman I trust my intuition and something isn't right. He tries to always turn things around on me and make me feel like I'm crazy. I've been with him since we were teenagers we have 3 kids 16, 14, 11 and now I'm pregnant with our fourth!! (Yikess) I spill my guts to him and tell him how I feel but he just says all I do is nag but all I ask for is his attention the same attention he gives to his co-workers. Lately he's been real distant and sneaky and always on his phone sometimes when I walk in room he is looking at his phone smiling. I have already come to the conclusion that he's gone and it's been over for quite sometime but what bothers me is how he denies it and does it in my face like nothing 18 years 4 kids and like it's nothing to him. Why can't he just be a man and tell me what it really is
Most Helpful Guy
Yeah you're messed like you're right baby you probably been gone for a while you sound just like the relationship I just got out of 9 years and she was the same way towards me except for she had three kids and I raised them because i loved them and she took all of them away she ended up cheating on me getting on drugs after 9 years I was devastated. I'm finally at the point now where my needs are getting the best of me on my way and I really need to have some fucking sex so I work a lot so I don't get out much that's why I'm on this site because if I can't get a date at least need somebody to talk too. Sounds kind of pathetic sorry but anyways it sounds pretty bad baby I cut your losses and start over as soon as possible because there's no sense in being miserable1
Most Helpful Girl
For a second I thought you were actually 24 .. then I started reading more lol
Talk to him, don't throw in the towel just yet, plan a dinner, get a sitter or (just have a romantic dinner when the kids are asleep) and express your feelings!
Talk to him and use words that aren't attacking him just talk to him and find out how you guys can get back to that place when you guys were teenagers.
It could just be that life is mundane and routine for him and he's missing that excitement.
It could also just be that he misses you as much as you miss him, it just has probably been a long time since he remembered how to show it.
Talk to him, let him talk also. If you guys agree that you can't agree, then that's okay. Don't talk to anyone thats not in your relationship, because only you and him know what goes on.2