We've been together 2 years and have been through a lot. Family deaths, one miscarriage (our child), etc. We hadn't spoken in 3 days, so I texted him and called once. Eventually he texted back that it has nothing to do with me, he just wants to be alone right now. I said ok, do you mean alone as in single, or alone as in you need some space for the time being? He didn't answer, so I said "ok well take care. If you need any help with anything in the future don't hesitate to ask." He said "thanks, LOVE YOU." I assume he did the bs break up, but what's with the "LOVE YOU" shenanigans? He's almost 40, and I'm 34, so this is absurd behavior, probably on both of our parts.
Most Helpful Guy
Oooo "Do you mean alone as in single" >_< Man that'd spike my stress meter if my girlfriend said that when I needed some alone time. When I'm really stressed - which I have been a lot recently with family deaths happening in my life too, I feel the need to... Just be in silence - to just stop thinking and relax. I tend to sleep a lot during those times. If I had my girl with me I wish I could just lay in bed holding her for hours in silence. But saying something so spiteful like "Do you mean alone as in single" during a stressful time - I wouldn't blame him if he were to consider breaking up or not wanting to continue that conversation. As a boyfriend I'm sure he's not considering your feelings or needs enough in regards to just any attention you may need - but in a time like this where both of you are probably grieving and full of fatigue and stress - you should just try to be understanding of each other.0
Most Helpful Girl
I really don't understand this kind of behaviour. Who goes days without speaking in a committed relationship?
I'd have no issue with them needing space; but define what that is. Does he need space away just from me, or from everyone in general? How long can I expect him to need space for? What does he expect when he's finished needing space? Once those are answered I'd feel equipped to give him what he needed.
Without it, I'd tell him I consider the relationship over and that I wish him all the best for the future0