I've been dating my boyfriend for 2 years. He was on vacation when I met him. We met and were instantly inseparable. I thought it was love at first sight. He postponed his leaving for a week to stay with me and eventually moved across the country for me a couple of months later. He is my first serious relationship. Keep in mind- I'm in my mid 20s and never wanted anything serious until I met him. I am a very ambitious person and am attracted to ambition and success. He's everything I want in a man minus that. he's sweet, caring, great with my family, and overall perfect boyfriend other than his laziness and lack of ambition. He's always broke and can't afford to do anything and I don't see that changing anytime soon. But even when he is broke, he will take every dollar he has and spend it on me. For the past couple of months, I've been resenting him and even hating that he is lazy and doesn't pursue a career. He says he wants to own a restaurant one day but with no plan or drive to do so. He's just all words and no action every time I bring up his future and career. With every talk we have about it, the more I lose faith that he will get it together. All I want is the best for him and for us in the future. Am I being selfish for pushing him? my nagging seems to annoy him more but his lack of action drives me nuts. Does this feeling of resentment end? Or should I just put an end to the relationship?
Most Helpful Guy
Well it is the 21 century and this is the question i downloaded this app for..
So you are a millionaire trapped by a bum? Bums are so cool for the first 3 months then you realized why.. Because you were talking to yourself and you achieved your social maturity by using a boyfriend to understand yourself. LEAVE! Things are only going to get better. Momma is going to know that her daughter didn't let some lowlife turn her daughter into a housewife. Daddy is going to be proud of his daughter because she can leave the losers and become successful. Looking at yourself 3 years from now your going to have a hot sex life better social circle and a career that will be flexible enough that you know you dont want to give up on some guy that bought you flowers after your menstration time and chocolates after you had a hot bath. Dont let your emotiins get caught up in time, everyday is a new opporunity to make changes0
Most Helpful Girl
The lack of action conflicts with your ambitiousness. If you truly feel that this is not something you want for the rest of your life, then either try to discuss it with him (so he might actively try to improve on that), or leave. You can not change him. Only he can.0