Long story short, I was with one guy "c" for almost a year, he decided he wanted to play "God" in my life and even though I did everything in my power to make him happy, it wasn't good enough. So eventually, he got so bad, I moved 10 hours north to where I am originally from and where all my family is. While there, I met A WONDERFUL person "CJ". I immediately fell head over heals for this guy. Come to find out there was a whole lot going on with him when we got together that I was lied about (wife, crazy family, potential kids ETC...) but I was so crazy about him, I stuck around... Eventually, C started contacting me, telling me just how much he changed how he realized what he had and would do ANYTHING to get me back.. Now mind you, CJ and I fight like cats and dogs, probably cause I snap at the drop of a hat, but after everything he lied to me about in the beginning, it's hard not to. But this last stupid little fight CJ and I had, I decided to pack my car and high tale it 10 hours south! and 2 days into I regret it. Not cause my ex C has done anything wrong, but because I am absolutely head over heals for CJ. But if he finds out about what I did (coming 10 hours south to C) I am so afraid he will completely disown me! But I can't not tell him! And on the other side, it's going to absolutely DEVASTATE C! I love him, I'm not just in love anymore! How do I tell CJ and get him to trust me again? or is all hope lost? Remember, he (CJ) lied to me about a whole ordeal of things in the beginning. I forgave him, but I don't Think he'll forgive me. Do I stay put and work it out with C or tell CJ and hope for the best? Please help!
Do I stay or should I GO?!?!
What Guys Said 1
Neither. You need to get right with yourself first. You seem to be way too dependent on having a guy in tour life. You need to gain some perspective and maturity before being in another relationship. Normal people don't runaway every time something isn't going right in a relationship. You've done it twice. One guy wants to control your life, the other lies about his to you, but you're still willing to be with them? That's just not right.0
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What Girls Said 1
I would put work in with "C" if I were you. He is trying to become the man you need and that is quite a big thing.
I would get away from "CJ" whether you trying to work things out with "C" or not. He lied to you and he will again as soon as it is convenient. If he has a wife (ex-wife?) that he has a terrible relationship with, and family he doesn't have a good relationship with, and potential kids that should give you a heads up that he does not know how to manage relationships. He will end up not only breaking your heart, but tearing your life apart. I understand he must be very handsome, smart, funny, etc. to have landed you in the first place. But none of those things will matter when he starts making bad decisions that affect your life. Save yourself the trouble.0
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