To you, what is the hardest part of breaking up?
The questions they ask?
Getting your stuff back?
How to split mutual friends?
What do you hate most, aside from actually hurting the other person.
Most Helpful Guy
I haven't had a breaking up experience so i can not precisely speak about personal encounter.
Furthermore, i highly believe the hardest piece of breaking up with someone would depend on the situation. Several factors such as; motivation behind the action; the mood of the relation; the details in between and the smoothness of the conditions.
For instance; if you are breaking up with someone while you still love them but there is something you can not handle and it's a big red flag for you; so that brought the relation to an end; the hardest part would be breaking up itself. You still have love; but there are elements that you failed to settle now this is the result. You might not like it; but you don't have the solution for solving it so you just have to move on; and that's a pain by itself.
Or if you are breaking up; and the situation is one of those times where you are leaving someone because of their own benefit. The pain would be the fact that this is against your inner willingness. And the fact that your partner might never really knows the actual truth. Maybe you even have to play monster to just break up but the underlying emotion is different and the truth is something else; so the hardest part would be making a difficult choice in sake of the person you love; but you're also hiding the true feeling and expressing the opposite in order to perform the break up.
Or if you are breaking up because you were in the relation as a beta test. You wanted to realize if there is something more between you and the person; after a while you realize you can not feel enough connected to continue; but the opposite is in love with you; in this case i believe the biggest pain and hardest part is the communications in between; the process of breaking up and all the details of splitting. It can be extremely difficult to move away from someone who loves you and potentially getting hurt so much over your decision. It has to be done; but it's a difficult thing to be done.
So generally i believe the difficulty; hardness and pain of the break up is dependable on what condition and circumstances the break up is occurring.
Most Helpful Girl
It'd depend on the circumstances. Like what led to the breakup- if it was cheating, a mutual decision, etc..
If I were to break up with my boyfriend now, aside from the obvious loneliness, I think it being next to impossible to cut him completely out of my life would be pretty damn hard. I've experienced so many things with him, be it on an emotional/physical/sexual level, or even just hitting up certain restaurants/strip clubs, there would be things that remind me of fun times with him around almost every corner. I'd basically end up being hit with reliving how I no longer have that on a regular basis for quite some time.1