I know I'm going to get a lot of backlash here but here goes... I'm absolutely head over heels with a married man, and I too am married. He feels the same way. We both work together and although we've tried to keep our distance, we just keep being drawn to each other and it's an overpowering feeling. This has been going on now for over 7 months. I'm not unhappy in my marriage, at least I don't think so. Yet I want nothing more than to be with the other man. Basically I want my cake and to eat it. I'm not here looking for someone to say it's ok, I know it's not ok. I just don't know what to do now. I know that pursing this is so wrong and is the road to nowhere. I need a slap! And also to hear from people that have maybe been here before. I love my husband. I wouldn't say I love the other man, it's more lust. I thought it would have just fizzled out by now.
Most Helpful Guy
First of all, no one has right to give you backlash. And second... if you dont like what you're doing just dont. Idont mean like in sense it doesn't feels good, cause i know it does.. but try to understand the whole situation, not just from your angle. Try to put things in perspective and make some space, to see what an how to go next step. Someone will be hurt thats for sure (probably), but how much and in what way that is not sure and its controllable.
You mentioned you need a slap.
Phisical slap won't work.
As i said, try to put things in perspective, like why you do it, whats most important to you, what do you see in future... and try to be sensible and give yourself time.
It actually is ok because you are living woman, and quite normal to feel what you feel, but you're right, j agree with you that situation is not ok, and you realising that is the first "slap" you're on a good way...
Try to realise what you have, and it will fall from your hands, you will loose desire and will to go on when you realise what you REALLY have in your hands. You dont need any effort at all, just realisation. Its like holding a paper that is written on it with a pen 1000$ and you are protecting it with your life, till you realise its not real dollar, but peace of ordinary paper... you just naturally stop to care...1
Most Helpful Girl
Start looking for other jobs and remove yourself from the situation. Staying, when both of you have obviously communicated these feelings and crossed that boundary shows you can’t be trusted, so change it3