It will be a bit long but I'd love you to help me. I met a charming guy from my city on Facebook a year ago. When we met he told me that a year earlier he had been engaged for four years and canceled the wedding and now he is ready for a new relationship. We went out on a date and it was perfect... we've text all day and talk all day and he told me that he broke up with her because they did not match And did not see things in the same way as children's education and that he became indifferent to her. The first and second dates were amazing and we talked all the time and he courted me madly and complimented me endlessly but kept telling me that I should not fall in love with him because he was not for me and at the same time was jealuos for me and ask me if I met other men or did things with other men because we were not in a relationship we had sexual relationship without feelings. He would turn over all the time and act with indifference sometimes and call only when he needed encouragement and advice or something sexual. Of course I fell in love with him and he talked a lot about the relationship he had with this girl and he kept saying it was over and that he wanted me, I cut it a few months ago and found that he returned to the ex and they get married. What to do? I'm devastated. I don't know what to do and what to think.. can't stop crying
Most Helpful Guy
Well, he did warn you that you should not fall for him. From the perspective you have on this relationship now - you have all the answers. Sadly, from the looks of it - you didn't have the same vision when you were dating with him. The guy is an asshole, held some feelings towards his ex yet he gave you a feeling that he needs you and you wanted to FEEL needed. That's how i see it from your words alone.
You'll get over it, eventually. Things like this happen all the time and it ALWAYS hurts to be the victim of such relationships.2
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Most Helpful Girl
It seems like you've become completely emotionally invested in this guy while he just wanted sex from you. Did you ever stop to consider he doesn't deserve your love? But, hey, who am I to speak? I've been in similar situations. What's important is that he's getting married and that (I think) you deserve much better. I hope you'll stop crying and be happy.1